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datingdisastersofaqueergirl: Like do you not understand that my crazy witch friend just died? Do...

Fri, 11 Jan 2013 02:42:43 -0500

Like do you not understand that my crazy witch friend just died? Do you really want to fuck with their ghost right now? Because they will fuck you up. You can lock yourself into your damn room and they can still get to you. You’re so fucked, dude. You’re so fucked.

TW: rape, accusations of trans misogyny: I really didn't want to make this post

Fri, 11 Jan 2013 02:41:56 -0500

datingdisastersofaqueergirl:

But now that people are anonymously (dude I know it’s you, Aimee) messaging my girlfriend and trying to dissuade her from being with me, I guess I have to. Great.

I remember when my friend had to do something similar and said, “I don’t want to do this. I don’t want to have to defend myself when I did nothing wrong. And I don’t want to have to disclose personal and embarrassing information to do this.” I feel that so hard right now.

In December of 2011, I was raped. I barely knew her; we had mutual friends who encouraged me to hang out with her. She manipulated me into having sex with her. She coerced me using politics. She’s trans, I’m cis, and when it looked like I was resisting her advances she made it very clear to me that it was because I was transphobic and fucked up. Never mind that she was not the first trans lady I had been with; when I even brought that up she talked right over me and kept touching me. Finally, I gave in. I let her do whatever she wanted to me, including crossing a couple of hard limits for me. I completely disassociated during it. That’s never happened to me before. Then I went home and didn’t tell anyone except my husband and my best friend for several months. I told a handful more of people eventually.

6 months later I get a message from her telling me she heard I was telling people she raped me. I told her I was not using that word for the encounter but I was considering it a gray area of consent. I told her I wasn’t mad. I told her it happened. She said,”Gus. That’s rape. I raped you. I’m so sorry.” (I have the FB transcript of this). I said I didn’t want to talk to her about it anymore.

A couple of months later a friend approached me to let me know that she was telling people that I assaulted her and that I was a chaser and lots of trans women had come to her and let her know I made thence feel disrespected and fetishized.

I have been with 18 sexual partners since I became sexually active 8 years ago. 3 of those partners have been trans women. 2 have been non binary femme gender queer folks. I have been emotionally but not sexually involved with two other trans women.

When Aimee started these rumors, I called all of my exes and asked if I had ever made them feel fetishized or disrespected and if so I was so sorry and would be willing to go through any kind of accountability process they desired. The reaction was overwhelming. Basically, they all acted like I was a bizarre creature with ten heads for even suggesting such a thing. One ex put it very poetically when she said, “Gus, if you were a chaser I wouldn’t have put it in you.”

All these women have offered to make “official” statements on my behalf but honestly I don’t want it to come to that. This has already gotten way too absurd.

Aimee Hanley is a rapist. She’s actually a fucking serial rapist, since I know for a fact that she assaulted a (trans) woman I know personally and I’ve heard rumors about several other women.

I’m not ever gonna be mad at trans women who don’t know me for being distrustful of me. I’m a cis woman who is a slutty queer: I like girls and I don’t give a fuck about birth sex assignment. I do not approach a lot of girls, mostly because I’m fat and I have learned how unreceptive people can be to my non-gorgeous advances. I especially do not approach many trans ladies because I am conscious of how marginalized people can often feel cornered and trapped during interactions like that. I know this from experience.

I swear to you all, I’m not a chaser. I actually wouldn’t even be mad if this were just a rumor by identity politicians who were suspicious that the last couple of folks I’ve dated were amab trans folks. That’s real, I guess. Be suspicious. Cis people suck and I am cis.

But this is a rumor started by my rapist. So I guess I’m done playing nice and staying quiet.

Resurrecting this blog briefly to lend support to Gus. I stand by what she is saying here. I have been hearing this story unfold from the very beginning and I remember everything from Gus’ initial reactions to the incident, to Aimee herself using the “r” word first, to my shock and disgust when I found out that Aimee had apparently flipped from admitting responsibility for her actions to trying to put the blame onto Gus.

I’ve had the opportunity to observe Gus’ conduct (up close) through a number of difficult situations (“difficult” here is a hell of an understatement, my friends) and know that she is a person of integrity and accountability, and a true friend in every sense. Folks have her back because they know she’ll have theirs.

3 days left to save Pe' Sla and just 12% of goal raised

Wed, 22 Aug 2012 02:36:39 -0400

3 days left to save Pe' Sla and just 12% of goal raised:

ellydwerewolf:

Pe’ Sla is an area in the Black Hills of South Dakota (just west of Rapid City) that is considered by the Lakota people to be the Center and heart of everything that is. It is part of our creation story. It is a sacred place. We perform certain ceremonies at Pe’ Sla which sustain the Lakota way of life and keep the universe in harmony. This area is currently owned by the Reynolds family. They plan to auction off almost 2,000 acres on August 25, 2012 to the highest bidder. It is likely that the state of South Dakota will put a road directly through Pe’ Sla and open up this sacred place for development.

Tweet celebrities. Submit to news watch blogs. Post on Facebook. Reblog, reblog, reblog. Spread this EVERYWHERE. This cannot stand. They would never bulldoze and build a road through the Vatican. Please, respect all sacred sites. Help keep this place of worship safe!

Photo

Wed, 22 Aug 2012 02:28:23 -0400

skullvomit: plain-pleasures: “Candy Darling on her Deathbed”...

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 21:00:05 -0400

skullvomit:

plain-pleasures:

“Candy Darling on her Deathbed” by Peter Hujar

Why

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 17:25:38 -0400

So this has happened a couple times.

1. I’ve asked for no contact from someone whose behavior towards me is really inappropriate. I tell them I want this indefinitely. I make no indication that I will ever change my mind.

2. I find out that they think the arrangement is “temporary” and that if they just wait some small amount of time I’ll be OK with them talking to me/getting all up in my space again.

Like, this has happened more than once, with more than one person.

I conclude it is because:

1. Men are terrible,

2. And the men I have asked not to contact me have terrible boundaries, which is why I tried to cut them off in the first place.

fuckyeahmarxismleninism: New York City: Marsha P. Johnson and...

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 17:16:16 -0400

fuckyeahmarxismleninism:

New York City: Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera, veterans of the Stonewall Rebellion and founders of STAR (Street Transvestite Action Revolutionaries), march in the 1973 Pride Parade.

polkarty: ghdos: illrandomocity: majin-k: Did a bunch of...

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 15:40:00 -0400

polkarty:

ghdos:

illrandomocity:

majin-k:

Did a bunch of dogs breakup a fight between two cats? Am I seeing this right??

Having none of that shit today.

“Ay man, y’all chill the fuck out. Y’all fucking up the party.”

the cat sitting by the tire kind of just watched and wondered if what he saw actually happened

Video

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 14:52:34 -0400

Is Cis Scum Dead Yet?

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 14:10:49 -0400

Is Cis Scum Dead Yet?

The lair, airy and full of light: How being cis reinforces the gender binary!

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 14:05:00 -0400

The lair, airy and full of light: How being cis reinforces the gender binary!:

firegrowshigher:

silencingthedrums:

catamite:

1. There are only two cis genders— male and female/man and woman (which are seen as being the exact same thing pretty much). Being cis thus necessitates by definition buying into a binary gender cistem— err, system.

2. Being cis depends upon accepting the gender you were assigned…

I don’t think you can accuse cis people of “upholding the gender binary” simply by virtue of how they exist. Certainly, many cis people do so deliberately, but to make a sweeping statement that all people of A category are making a negative political statement simply by existing is, frankly, absurd.

A lot of heterosexual people have harmed queer people. A lot of heterosexual people fight to keep queer people oppressed. Does that meant that simply being heterosexual is enough to perpetuate the myth of heteronormativity? No, it absolutely is not.

Just because some cis people suck doesn’t mean that all cis people are the enemy. Sweeping generalizations and extremism on either side does exactly nothing to help anyone’s cause.

Wow this is fucking stupid.

I’d add something but I think Silencing got most of it.

I would add that Nobody Chooses Their Gender, and this applies to cis people as much as trans and non-binary people. To say that cis people have “accepted” the gender they were assigned at birth makes it sound like they made some kind of absurd conscious decision to be cis. Which implies that you can also choose to be trans or non-binary. Which is sooo problematic dear lord.

I already explained how this is intentionally ridiculous satire. Look above you on the reblog chain. This is an engagement with the absurd radscum rhetoric that says that being trans reinforces the binary (while being cis somehow doesn’t). If you have a problem with that, go to the radscum who are actually serious about the idea that somebody’s individual gender can be 1. chosen and 2. responsible for dismantling gender-based oppression all on its own.

Or, you know, you could cry me a river of cis tears over the straight-up imaginary ways in which I and trans folks everywhere have wronged you.

"32,101"

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 03:00:42 -0400

“32,101”

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The number of pregnancies that result from rape every year in the United States

Relevant to both Todd Akin and every pro-lifer who says pregnancies from rape “aren’t that common” or “don’t happen enough to matter.”

Hey, Tumblr, can we get this post liked and/or reblogged at least 32,101 times?

(via heidi8)

Reblog

(via searchingforknowledge)

I just am blown away by the fact that there are people out there who believe that rapes never produce pregnancy. -_-
(via notyrqueer)

How being cis reinforces the gender binary!

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 02:34:49 -0400

punkrock-anarchy:

catamite:

1. There are only two cis genders— male and female/man and woman (which are seen as being the exact same thing pretty much). Being cis thus necessitates by definition buying into a binary gender cistem— err, system.

2. Being cis depends upon accepting the gender you were assigned at birth. Birth assignment is an inherently binarist and frequently violent practice because it involves A) insuring that all bodies conform to one of two acceptable body types (“sexes”), resulting in the mutilation of many intersex infants, and B) legally designating every child as either male or female, seriously inhibiting that child’s ability to express, experiment, or play with non-conforming gender until and in fact into adulthood.

3. Cis people benefit from cissexism, the system of oppression which privileges cis people over trans people, and from its subset binarism, which is the belief that only two genders can be real and natural. As such, cis people, whether they realize it or not, have a vested interest in upholding cissexism and binarism.

4. The majority of cissexist and binarist oppression is perpetuated by cis people, ranging from transphobic murders to transphobic physical and verbal harassment to transphobic job discrimination to upholding of transphobic and binarist standards of appearance, dress and beauty to upholding the continued existence of gendered bathrooms (in most cases opposing or declining to provide even a gender neutral bathroom option alongside gendered bathrooms).

How being trans reinforces the gender binary:

1. Oh

2. Wait

3. It doesn’t.

4. BOOOM.

I like the description of how being cis reinforces the binary, but i don’t know if i agree with this post completely. I have known some binary trans folks, and some folks have been weird that i’m not binary. Being trans doesn’t inherently reinforce the binary like being cis does, but it does not inherently break the binary like this post seems to imply.

Folks are taking this post too seriously. It is absurd to say that an individual person’s gender “reinforces the binary” as if saying that mandates them out of existence and proves that they shouldn’t be that gender. No, being trans does not “inherently break the binary” and is not inherently radical, saying so is ALLLLLLMOST (but for the reasons listed above not quite) as ridiculous as saying that “trans people reinforce the binary” while acting like cis people don’t.

This post is an engagement with the silliness of certain transphobic rhetoric on it’s own very silly terms, and nothing more.

calvinandhobbes-daily: August 20, 1992

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 02:22:57 -0400

calvinandhobbes-daily:

August 20, 1992

enumerate: Injustice at Every Turn: A Look at Asian American,...

Tue, 21 Aug 2012 02:22:02 -0400

enumerate:

Injustice at Every Turn: A Look at Asian American, South Asian, Southeast Asian, and Pacific Islander Respondents in the National Transgender Discrimination Survey

The National Transgender Discrimination Survey (NTDS) measured transgender people’s experiences of discrimination. The survey results showed that transgender people faced bias that affects all areas of life. However, one of the most important findings was that the combination of anti-transgender with structural and individual racism meant that transgender people of color experience particularly devastating levels of discrimination. “Injustice at Every Turn: A Look at Asian American, South Asian, Southeast Asian, and Pacific Islander Respondents in the National Transgender Discrimination Survey,” produced in collaboration with the National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA) and the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE), is the third in a series of reports designed to specifically shine a light on the experiences of transgender people of color. It’s available in English as well as Chinese (Traditional), Hindi, Korean, Tagalog, Tamil, and Vietnamese.

littlemissmutant: ALSOI know we’re all (very justifiably!) hating on Ayn Rand here but can I just...

Mon, 20 Aug 2012 17:25:22 -0400

littlemissmutant:

ALSO

I know we’re all (very justifiably!) hating on Ayn Rand here but can I just point out that this:

I think it’s a monstrous thing — the whole progression of everything they’re doing — to feature, or answer, or favor the incompetent, the retarded, the handicapped, including, you know, the kneeling buses and all kinds of impossible expenses. I do not think that the retarded should be allowed to come near children. Children cannot deal, and should not have to deal, with the very tragic spectacle of a handicapped human being. When they grow up, they may give it some attention, if they’re interested, but it should never be presented to them in childhood, and certainly not as an example of something they have to live down to.
- Ayn Rand, The Age of Mediocrity, Q & A Ford Hall Forum, April, 1981 (emphasis mine)

is actually the ENTIRE message of Vonnegut’s “Harrison Bergeron”.

AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH and uh yes you are right about Vonnegut fuck that story

calvinandhobbes-daily: August 19, 1988 My version of problem...

Mon, 20 Aug 2012 01:21:16 -0400

calvinandhobbes-daily:

August 19, 1988

My version of problem solving.

favoritelittlelyrics: Massive Attack, “Teardrop” Holy...

Mon, 20 Aug 2012 01:20:28 -0400

favoritelittlelyrics:

Massive Attack, “Teardrop”

Holy overplayed dungeon standard, Batman!

(seriously you have no idea how many times I have heard this at the Citadel… unless you have also heard this a million times at the Citadel.)

magnicifent: So this is a thing.

Sun, 19 Aug 2012 20:06:04 -0400

magnicifent:

So this is a thing.

Handy FYI to cis people.

Sun, 19 Aug 2012 18:29:49 -0400

genderpunk:

socialistexan:

You never get to use the word “tr*nny.”

It’s a controversial word even among trans people. Loads of trans people don’t even like it when it’s used even by other trans people.

So don’t use it. Ever

+1