Hi. I have seen what is happening. I know you all want a response.
Here is the thing. Jamie and Jamie’s partner Twiggy were both severely abusive to me. They were also severely abusive to several other people. My friend Anja, who allowed them to live in zir apartment for many months, is one of them. Ze has given me permission to use zir name, and plans to make a post about zir experience soon. I know of other victims, but do not have their permission at this time to name them. To those victims, all I can say is that I for one am willing to come forward and lend them my support if you ever want to speak up, and will lend my support in private even if you never do.
Those are just their victims IRL. On the internet, they have abused, harassed and bullied many more people, which has already been well-documented. If you do your research you can find out the way that they usually behave towards others. The two links provided are just a start.
Even though they have moved to another state, Twiggy and Jamie are using the internet to continue to their abuse of me. Many of you have, despite your excellent intentions, become their tool of abuse. This is something they do. They prey on people’s kindness and good intentions. Anja took them in and gave them a home, and got badly burned. I tried to embark on a relationship with them that was loving and caring, and also got burned. They have burned multiple bridges in the radical community in the Bay Area and seem to do so wherever they go, because they prey on radicals. They prey on people who care.
I am unwilling to do anything on the timeline of my abusers or their supporters. You will of course believe whoever you like. In fact, if I were you, I would probably believe Jamie and Twiggy. But I was there. I know what happened. I am not going to be gaslighted, manipulated, terrorized or panicked by them yet again.
During my relationship with them, my politics were damaged. I said and did many things which hurt many people in my community, for example, in my role as a moderator on a certain message board when I failed to respond to Twiggy and Jamie’s abusive behavior to other members. I assimilated their beliefs and began to behave like them. My friend Anja also has had the experience of having zir politics badly damaged by trying to please Twiggy and Jamie, which is in fact impossible to do.
Since breaking up with them, I have stepped down as the moderator of the aforementioned message board, and have dialed my posts on Tranarchism.com way back. You may notice that for the past several months Tranarchism.com has consisted mainly of events, news alerts, and signal boosts for relevant information. This is because I have not felt comfortable using a platform with hundreds of views a day and over 700 active subscribers for my own voice until I do a lot of work on myself. Candidly, this work on myself is not about guilt or shame over my relationship with Twiggy and Jamie, because I know all the ways in which I was hurt, intimidated, threatened, coerced and manipulated by them, physically, emotionally and sexually.
The work I have to do on myself is partly motivated by me need to repair my politics in multiple ways, many of which have nothing to do with them. It’s also deeper work related to my struggle with addiction. For several years I have been completely controlled and consumed by selfish drives and have hurt many people as a result. The upshot is that right now I am neither morally fit nor mentally prepared to be a public figure. The desire to be in the limelight is also not as important to me anymore.
I will not be withdrawing from politics, because by the nature of my existence that is impossible. However I will not be taking a position of visible leadership for a while. In the future that may change, or it may not.
For now, good-bye.
ETA: I took the time to write a detailed account of their abuse of me and others here.
